“I knew right away that the person would like my body. Even love. They loved everything that society wants us to believe are flaws, like stretch marks or rolls or cellulite. “
“I’ve had good experiences with overweight dating websites,” says Marie. It always felt like a safe place to her. But she also understands that others would not be comfortable with it and stresses that it is just as possible to meet someone on the mainstream sites and apps (and in real life – she met her friend offline, for example). “If a fetish isn’t your thing, cool. It doesn’t have to be. ”But it can.
5. Be true to yourself.
There is this thesis in the dating world, especially in the online dating world, the first impression is mostly fake. We post our favorite pictures, choose a particularly cool profile photo and think about the choice of words before sending each individual message. And of course there’s nothing wrong with wanting to present yourself at your best – but make sure that’s still part of you anyway.
“I fully understand if you don’t want to be completely honest straight away – especially if you are afraid that what you reveal could be used against you,” says Ospina, referring to photos in particular. Many women even deliberately refrain from posting full body photos. But what happens when it comes to the date at some point? Then you are sure to panic shortly before the meeting because you don’t know how he or she introduced you. “I really think it’s important for your mental health to prevent this feeling of fear. Try to post at least a full body picture. I mean, you should of course take a photo that you like too. But sometimes we use the images that are most “beneficial”; on which we look narrower because of the pose or the light. ”And I would advise against that.
You can also consider adapting your “about me”. For example, Ospina has words like “fat positive” or “fat babe” in her profile. She prefers the word fat, but you can of course use other keywords that you like better – for example curvy, plus size, body positivity.
In short, if your photos are real, unadulterated and show what you really look like, the chances are lower you will meet people who have a problem with how you look. And you really don’t need people like that in your life, says Ospina. She is right.
THIS ARTICLE WAS FIRST PUBLISHED ON FEBRUARY 14, 2020, 1:49 PM
TRANSLATED BY MAIKE BARTSCH; PHOTO: ALEXANDRA GAVILLET
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